A very good friend of mine whom I had dinner with many nights past away about six weeks ago. It was about that time one evening while having dinner a gentleman was standing behind me and talking to me and a few of the other people that were friends of the deceased and whom had dinner with him and knew him very well. It just so happens that the gentleman standing behind me was the son of the deceased. He was from another state and never really spent much time with his Dad, from what we understood. He sat down with me and a few other people and wanted to know about his Dad. After about two hours he commented that we were like family to his father and he learned many facets of his fathers life especially his persistant smile and positive attitude.
While I was talking to him and listening to his questions I felt an eary feeling and said to myself; "Is this what my sons are going to have to do". Unlike the deceased who had a long lasting marriage but his wife past away a few years ago, my first marriage was short lived but has had a lasting effect in the fact that I haven't seen my sons from my first marriage in almost thirty years.
This simple conversation with the son of a good and gentle friend has helped to give me the insights as to the MORAL and LEGAL perspectives in resolving my delemma.