THE SOUNDING BOARD
In dealing with the organizations especially the father's rights organizations from 1976 up to and around 1986 I never realized how much of a sounding board I was for many of these men from around the country and how I had felt their problems and expressed their feelings and emotions in the many lectures and public appearances I had during those years.
I remember I would run my Chiropractic practice during the day and in the evening after I was finished practicing I was on the telephone with fathers on the east coast up until about 11:00PM; and, then the fathers on the west coast would call me until sometimes 3:00AM. It got to a point that one night my wife at that time, Mimi, made a comment, "Joe, how long is this going to happen". I knew then that I better back off from taking so many calls or I would have had another divorce. The calls kept coming and I had to change my telephone number a few times but they still kept coming for another 10 years.
One gentleman was so up tight one evening I told him to come to my apartment. He was so uptight about not seeing his kids that he came to our apartment at 11:00PM and ranted about his problem until about 5:00 AM when I knew he had burned out his hostility and then he went home. I did this on the telephone numerous times for hours where my phone bill got up to $800 per month. I would meet fathers in a diner to discuss their problem and listen to them for hours and let them let their hostility out until they felt better about themselves and their situation, with some proper guidance. I personally feel good for what I have done for these men and only the good Lord knows how many domestic violence claims I stopped from being filed because I listed to many of these fathers who were in pain for not seeing their children and/or having problems with child support.
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